You have to learn how to crawl before you can talk. That is, if you want powerful communication skills that will last you a lifetime.
If you are not a trained public speaker, you can probably slide by with your existing skills or watch a few YouTube videos, but that won't help you up-level your speaking game. In my opinion, it’s not enough to have one powerful public speaking experience, but the next one you bomb. if you’re anything at all like me, you’ll feel like a fraud. Bottom line is that you’ll want to reproduce the same wonderful experience for the next time. So how can you become consistent?
Here’s the good news, you can build your skills, because the essence of communication is scientific. And, it starts with your brain changing your mental zip code.
Most negative thoughts that we generate are from the past and they will sabotage you. They show up in your body and wreak havoc on your mind. The body will give us away through fidgeting, an uncommitted voice, or closed off body language.
We all have habitual thought patterns. The question is, are yours helping or hurting you? Positive thoughts free us to be our best selves. The negative ones that will stop us dead in our tracks, and destroy on our confidence level. Therefore, it’s important to get a handle on these negative thoughts, if you aspire to be a transformational communicator.
It’s been my life’s mission to put these unwanted thoughts to rest. How you ask? Well it will takes commitment, and faith on the part of the communicator. If you’re willing to learn and put in the investment of time, you’ll be pleasantly surprised.
Here are a few quick tips that will help as you prepare to be a more centered and an engaging speaker.
Each time you’re aware of a negative thought replace it with a positive thought. Whatever you do, don’t analyze your negative thoughts. Simply replace a negative thought with a positive one, and before you know it. In time, you’ll naturally start to believe more in your positive thoughts. As a result, your confidence will soar.
Would you take a road trip and not know how you’re going to get to your destination? You shouldn’t present your ideas if you can’t map out your speaking strategy in advance. Really think about what you want to convey, and commit to that one idea throughout.
We naturally hold tension in the body, and often we’re clueless we are even doing it. However, if you have muscle tightness, or if you’ve been sick, or stressed, it will show up in your body. Guaranteed. If our body language doesn’t match up with what we are saying, the audience will feel confused and betrayed. You can’t inspire someone to think in a whole new way, if you’re body is holding on to tension. Learn to let go. Mediate and exercise are key factors in freeing the body, so it can best support you when you need it most.
These are just a few of the things that you can do to become a better speaker.
I would love to hear your thoughts.